I have a downer of a post to write in follow-up to my post about not dividing ourselves into allies and rivals. On Friday, I published a short piece about how we shouldn’t constantly measure everyone else by how much we agree or disagree with each other. Relationships should be valued over politics and religion and most disagreements. Today I want to write about how to recognize when a relationship does, in fact, need to be severed. I firmly believe what I wrote on Friday: if you’ve chosen to be in a relationship with someone, whether that is a friend or a partner or someone else, it’s important to hold onto whatever things made you choose a relationship with that person. But how do…